Often women during sexual intercourse fail to reach orgasm and to avoid embarrassing the partner they decide to pretend.
That female pleasure mechanism is more complex than masculine ones is a fact, not to mention the lack of familiarity that many men have with the female body. These reasons, as well as a sort of social “modesty” have made it almost acceptable for the woman to pretend or renounce reaching orgasm, but how to determine if it is a “healthy” fiction or a problem?
If it happens very occasionally, in reality, it would bring benefits to the couple, not only for the man who obviously feels more satisfied and safer, seeing also his satisfied partner but also in the woman. The fiction sometimes creates a sort of “virtuous circle” so on the one hand, he feels he has found confirmations even in the bedroom and therefore becomes progressively more uninhibited.
At the same time in women, the state of excitement increases and therefore makes the actual achievement of orgasm more likely, in this case very connected to mental factors and imagination. So, if it happens every now and then, it can also bring benefits within the couple.
When fiction is systematic, instead, there is inevitably a sense of frustration, from which it is not easy to go out. Only by knowing one’s body and the mechanisms of pleasure is it possible to avoid establishing this unhealthy habit, which in the long run also affects the understanding of the couple, inside and outside the bedroom. Furthermore, the longer it expects, the harder it will be to resolve. Sexuality is a fundamental part of the two-way relationship and must be based on honesty and understanding, even with regard to these more thorny issues.
There are two cases if you have never reached orgasm with your partner you can try to ask yourself why this happens. You do not have to assume that the problem is yours, just because women who cannot reach pleasure are frequently considered ” repressed ” or ” frigid “. Maybe he just doesn’t give you the attention you deserve.
If instead you don’t usually have this problem, but it only happens to you in recent times there may be a temporary physical problem or you are dedicating little time to intimacy or there are still problems in the couple. With due caution, without accusations or recriminations, it is also possible to approach the subject with the partner to find a solution together and come out even more harmonious. If this theme is ignored, however, it will become increasingly cumbersome in your relationship as a couple.